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Also cooking takes time. I make dinner every night and even with previously prepped things it's usually 20-30min every evening. If I worked 2 jobs (12-16hr) I wouldn't have the time nor energy, either.
Now throw in a being a single parent!
I honestly don't know how people do it. When my wife's out of town for a week, nothing gets done beyond basic survival. I don't have time to do any other chores, and I only work 1 job.
Child labour
I live alone and everything gets done. I cook meals that have 1/2 days of leftovers and leapfrog through them so I'm not eating the same thing all week. I grocery shop after work on Friday and clean house on weekends. It's not that difficult to manage. I guess kids would throw some complications on that though but I do have working out and hobby stuff after work that could be swapped with child care time.
I never had more time than living alone. Having a spouse and 2 kids is mayhem.
The kids make the things you mentioned impossible. I'm up an hour before them to get the day going. Then it's getting everyone together to get to work and daycare. Pick up kids from daycare after work, cook/have dinner, a little down time (like 30-60 minutes tops) which is spent with my kids, then it's baths and bed time routine for both of them. At this point, it is somewhere between 8 and 9, depending on how bedtime went and you haven't even cleaned up dinner or their lunch stuff. Now you can't leave your kids alone in the house, so you can't run any errands.
If you have practice or activities after daycare, push everything back another hour or 2.
It's a lot to do, which is how I dont understand how single parents do it every single day. I can handle it for a week, but a lot of routine chores don't happen. Things like a load of laundry goes in at 10p and I pass out and it sits wet until the next day.
What is your spouse doing during all this?
This was in reply to "when my wife's out of town for a week." And me talking about how i have no idea how single parents do it... So... not there. When she's home, the duties are split and it's manageable
Sorry I got confused by this line.
I also live alone, and my kids are grown up and gone.
I came to feel that "It's not worth it to cook for just one person" was a pretty lame excuse to eat frozen food and other garbage.
I'm trying to cook more stuff I can freeze or at least store for a few days.
Still pretty lazy though.
I believe in you. There's lots of easy stuff you can make that's good for you too. Just have to look up recipes. I'm gonna be staying with someone for a few weeks soon and I'm dreading it because they eat like shit.
It's kind of hard right now, because food prices have gone up so much .
But you don't have to poison yourself
Rice would be a choice, but I got type 2 diabetes a couple years ago after having pneumonia.
What's really bad is bread, which is annoying because it is relatively cheap.
I don't know much about diabetes diets so can't speak to that but I haven't really found junk food to be any cheaper than any other ingredients. Steak is more expensive but my grocery store usually has sales on particular cuts or older stuff you just need to use right away.
I do not have children but that is a dramatically out of touch perception of parenthood
Seriously, do one big dinner every Sunday and freeze enough portions for the rest of the week. Healthy, delicious, cheap and saves time on weekdays.
I've mentioned that a few times and people went "eugh, I don't want to eat the same food two(!) days in a row".
:/
If that's a big issue you can always save some from last week and alternate.
Now that I work 12 hour shifts 5 days a week... I only cook on the weekends. I try to make a bigger meal that saves well though. Chili, etc. after that's gone just easier things like sandwiches until the next weekend.
This week I've had my eyes opened to batch cooking. We were a bit skint (not poverty line skint) and working opposite shifts to each other, so for time and money we bought in ingredients for lasagne and chilli and made a massive batch of each on Sunday.
All week I've been taking the chilli to work and the family have been microwaving the batches when Wifey finishes work.
Cost me 50% of my usual food budget this week, and we still got in all the usual stuff for lunches with fruit and such.
Downside was Wifey overcooked the lasagne, so it can be a gamble I guess, but I will certainly be making a massive batch of Chilli in the future