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What are the advantages and disadvantages of being in a relationship? (lemmy.nz)

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 3 months ago (1 children)

A thing I didn't understand before getting into a long term commitment with my partner was the money impact:

Our combined expenses are lower than our individual expenses were. I have happily slept next to this person in a small tent, even though I hate tents. This effect scales to making all kinds of little things more tolerable and somehow cheaper.
An accountability partner has made me both stick to my budget more often, and cheat on my budget at better, more memorable times.

I had always heard that a spouse and kids were cost, cost, cost. I was surprised to learn how much money shared expenses saves.

Kids are still really fucking expensive, though. They didn't lie about that.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

One of the things I look forward to when we eventually move in together is that we will be able to cook for two more often. It leads to far more reasonable recipes and portions with less food waste. Most cooking for one is either you end up having to freeze a lot of stuff, or you make single serving but low nutrition meals. Instant noodles and frozen dinners just make more sense than cooking something real when you are flying solo

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

One of the things I look forward to when we eventually move in together is that we will be able to cook for two more often.

Yes. It absolutely lives up to the hype.