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NGL im super into tomboys and genderfluid people. But the idea of having sex with someone who has a penis is off-putting to me. Idk
Lucky for you, some trans people who are AMAB get surgery to change that penis into a vagina or something else. There are also plenty of gender fluid or nonbinary trans people who are AFAB and don't have or want a penis.
However, maybe get to know someone first and decide if you are attracted to them as a person before reducing them to their genitals. There are a lot of ways to have sex with trans people, and if you're into them, they're into you and they happen to have a penis, I'm sure you two can figure something out.
Yeah I'm not saying I dont want to have sex with AMAB people, quite the contrary. And having an emotional connection is super important to me anyways. I just don't think I could figure something out I'd actually be happy with when my partner still has a penis. And I'm not sure if this is wrong, but I don't have a lot of time or energy to meet many people, so I prefer kinda pre filtering people to figure out whether its worth it to get to know them. Kinda the way most people just filter by male/female, I guess.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having preferences. As long as you don't fetishize or objectify, and you treat people with dignity and respect it's all chill.
Yeah I definitely treat everyone with respect and try to avoid fetishizing. I'd be lying if I said that I'm not trying to find someone with certain features, but I guess that's really just having a preference. I'm not opposed to the idea of dating someone who doesn't have all those features. My preferences are mostly about personality anyways though.