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Seriously? I was always told you text for like two or three days first before going on a date. Oh I could definitely do that. I actually really hate texting XD
~~That advice is from the 1950s where there were not that many options and people didn't want to seem desperate. I like you, but not too much kinda thing.~~
~~Do that today and you might as well disappear from the face of the earth.~~
Misread your comment, I thought it was the old phone call advice.
Meeting strangers is no big deal, I meet them all the time, just have to walk outside. At the coffee shop there is strangers in line. Talk to them too. Arranging a face-to-face shouldn't be a big deal, it's just like cool maybe maybe we'll sync up
But really in the first few messages? Again, I'm all game. But I don't want to scare her off or something.
You don't have to request a dinner date or a movie or something. That might scare her off. Something quick and simple, though, shouldn't be a problem. "Hey, there's a Starbucks a few blocks from you, can I buy you a drink [tomorrow, whatever]? We can have a quick chat and see if we click." Or whatever's appropriate for your situation. You're not asking for a prolonged thing, just a brief face-to-face meeting, and if it goes well and you decide to go get lunch or something, fine, but you don't need to set that expectation up front.
Exactly. Quick and simple, with none of the expectations/baggage that a dinner date implies. Coffee. Ice cream. Freakin’ mini golf; I dunno. The point is to keep it casual, non-threatening, and allow conversation.