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[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Maybe. One way to process trauma is to re-visit it until it becomes more familiar and less of an extreme experience. Seeing it in your mind may make it more real, but it also means you can just picture a teapot instead if you need to get away from it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Seeing it in your mind may make it more real, but it also means you can just picture a teapot instead if you need to get away from it.

Thaaaaat's not how trauma works. If you could just distract yourself, the trauma wouldn't be nearly as much of an issue.

The problem is being forced to relive a horrible memory despite your will or not.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I love how we are all here talking about how we all think and perceive differently and you decided it was important to tell me that the way I process trauma isn't real. You can go ahead and fuck right off.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Nice reply man, super polite. You process trauma in whatever way best suits you, but... You're making the claim that is essentially "if you're bothered by traumatic memories, you can just stop thinking about them" which is reductive and simplistic as fuck, and above all very much objectively wrong.

People who are bothered by images from traumatic memories can't just choose to "picture a teapot instead if you need to get away from it." That's. Not. How. Trauma. Works.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Hey, I don't have to be polite to people who try to invalidate my life experience. Don't tell me how I work.

Feel free to tell me how YOU work, but telling me that "it doesn't work that way" when it obviously does for me doesn't make your experience somehow universal.

Also, this is the Internet, if you can't handle some people not being polite then I have bad news for you...