Ask Lemmy

Yes! On the other side of this, as a cis woman, don't be afraid to teach her practical, hands-on skills that don't conform to whatever ideas you have about gender roles. My dad wasn't in my life much, though my grandfather was a fair bit. I was always jealous of the boys that were raised to have "shop" skills. I wanted to help with that kind of stuff but the adults just kind of shrugged me off, where I feel like if I was a boy I might have been invited or even volunteered to help. All the older men that have worked alongside me in shops act surprised when they see that I can hold my own around power tools. The only exception might be some of my robotics mentors.

I learned what I know mainly from a couple projects with my grandfather and some classes/clubs I took part in in high school, and while it's something that does just click for me, I got to engineering school and felt pretty alienated when the boys had way more practical knowledge about things like cars and computer networks. Their father figures didn't shy away from those topics with them and gave them solid foundations to build their skills upon.

Of course, you might not have those particular specialties yourself and she might grow up to be into different, traditionally "girly" things, but you won't be able to say it was for a lack of support or because you were reluctant to share that side of yourself/your interests with her. It's a whole level of connection that I think is too easily missed between people raised as girls and their father figures, while those raised as boys, yes, probably are more likely to miss out more on the emotional end of things. Both are important for a well-rounded human being.