tweeks

Windows 7 truly was a blessing; fresh new update and performant, but before the double interface hell and advanced taskbar shit with intrusive ads implemented.

At least that's how I remember it.

Good solution, perhaps two simple options at browser install: Default / Custom. That way you don't have to uninstall all the stuff at the end.

a criminal always returns to the scene of the crime

Thank you for your patience with me. I think I understand you better now, as I sense you might have added some additional perspectives to my views. I'll let it simmer in my mind a bit. Thanks again.

I understand that you are frustrated, but in my opinion you are using a lot of black/white arguments. Let's try to work this out, as I think definition differences and perspective are confusing things.

A. I'm not saying porn is the only way out, I'm saying it's an outlet of existing (sexual) urges. Watching porn is as necessary as eating meat, both are not needed to survive and have not been accessible to people in the past per se. It's an urge you can act on, purely for pleasure. Just like toying with one's new iPhone can be considered a pleasure, while we might want to look for a more sustainable alternative that is not build on workforce abuse of all ages. But indeed, not all phones are bad, there is nuance and most people will need one. Just like not all food is bad, but we've got some pretty nasty stuff done to our fellow-earthlings. But there is nuance.

B. Porn can be consensual stimulating graphic imagery, for example in the form of a couple sharing part of their love life, a photoshoot of a nude model, but it can also be found in ancient paintings and has been common in books as old as time itself as texts (figuratively speaking). This distinction is important in the argument.

Perhaps we need to define the term porn better; as I understand it you mean the non-consensual form of real people in sexual situations in media.

And if I understand you correctly, you say that if you look at any of the forms of porn I've described above than you are masturbating to rape. But that's strong generalizing in my opinion.

What I do get though, is the part when what you find online is questionable and you can't see the difference. I'd say let's rule out all the porn that does not have an approval certificate of actual consent by an official authority.

C. 130 years ago iPhones did not exist either, the context made them useful, but I think I get what you mean with that argument. Just to keep things in balance, perhaps the amount of sexual abuse was higher as well then, as there was less of an outlet for sexual frustration / less regulation. I don't think we can get factual records on that, as sex has always been a bit of a taboo subject. What I'm sure of though is that sexual imagery has been around for far longer than 130 years.

D. In my opinion the Fairphone alternative (fairtrade, relatively expensive, sustainable) to an iPhone now (forced -child- labor, relatively cheap, marketed as 2 year object) is on an abstract level like the nuance discussion between consensual porn and nonconsensual. Most people do not know the difference even after some research. It is both extremely hurtful for real people, downright sadistic even, hurtful for the environment and just surfing in a wave of lustful dopamine. In both cases most people do not care enough to pay a bit extra, even do research.

In both cases people might throw the subjects under the bus because they do not see the relevance, while they're both supported by extreme human suffering in the bad scenario. They do not want to see similarities between suffering if it does not support their story.

• What I mean with all my responses, there is nuance in this topic.
• What you mean with your responses, there is pain in this topic.

And I say yes, there is pain, and it is gutwrechingly terrible. So are humans, I despise all of us for existing. But the truth is just that we are bad at looking at our own flaws and good at pointing out others. We still want things to change? We must work together and that starts with nuance.

I acknowledge the downsides of porn, I do not ask of you to acknowledge an upside, only hope to instill a bit of nuance in the definitions we're talking about.

I think that's where most of this triggers emotions and confusion.

Research on stuff you consume is a good habit, but most people don't make time to check every source, even on things they use daily like a phone (or people would all buy Fairphones).

I think most sane people do not like to masturbate to something when they believe it actually causes harm. That's why this is a news item, porn for most people is not about abuse and they are not fine with it (although I agree much content is often extremely aggressive). As for many it's supposed to be a window of letting sexual frustration out; porn is about sex, which is one of the core drive factors of most existing species and one of the main reasons we exist today. Not everyone feels as strongly about it, but one cannot deny the human urges surrounding it.

For many people porn in general can fulfill a need, and therefore it's quite easy for them to overlook the dark side of porn out of habit, just like eating animals is culturally acceptable to most, as well as buying the latest phone every two years while child labour is likely involved. People get their dopamine hit by different things and may look away from questionable parts. I'd figure that includes us, perhaps on different subjects.

I think we should all critically look at our own behaviour. We're all bad and hypocrites in my perspective, but not on purpose per se. Most discussion in this topic I see is about some people trying to admit they're confused and defending their past behaviour without wanting to give it all up and others that claim to have the moral highground while ignoring any nuance.

I think it's good to look at ourselves and our own shortcomings. Everyone has different flaws, some might be equally morally questionable. Let's acknowledge that and share our views. And together make sure that we strongly form a bond on that practices like in this news post will not happen again. This is a lot easier if we can understand the consumers of porn related services and work together to weed out the dark while acknowledging existing needs.

He leans on it, don't you see? That's his lean-knee-wee-nee.

The text might be automatically added with some script or AI, to perhaps fit different sizes or create items in a batch. Or someone was really lazy, or a combination.

She wanted to stay with me even without kids, but after the first days I saw her become an empty shell of a person. This was her meaning of life, apparently even more than we both thought. I could leave her, but that felt horrible as well.

Now we have a kid; the first few years were a personal nightmare for me because of mental health issues. Lack of sleep icw depression and what more makes parenting extra intense. I tried with all my might to not let it affect our child, I hope I managed to so far.

It's a lot better now, the kid is great and I'm amazed how much love I feel, but I always feel guilty. For giving life (something that goes against my principles as I did not want to be born myself) and for not being able to 50/50 care because of the mental shit that makes me unable to. Aside from that the usual, missing my freedom, the continuous responsibility.

I would not do it again in a reset of my life, not because of the kid who I genuinely think is great, but due to my lack of mental health, which has the potential each and everyday to ruin it all for them (which is a compulsive intrusive thought in my mind). But I hang on, I try to.

With all the love and respect, I would not recommend anyone in my situation.

Now try it with kids or a partner who works in health care. Personally I was quite strict like you, but had it a couple of times due to external factors becoming internal factors.

In this case it's the "suspect" of racism, in which I think we all agree should not directly lock you out of your account, but perhaps give you a warning.

But what if it's suspected illegal actions or content? Like them catching the home server being part of a DDoS attack, or overhearing signs of child abuse / identifying possible child pornography content or noticing illicit gun ownership. Their AI will determine that there's a 97% chance of that being the case.

I wonder if that would change things.

If such a system is not allowed to block usage, it will probably at least inform the local police.Your home setup will in most cases eventually act as a panopticon.

Heaven forbid even more, a masstectomy.