the_post_of_tom_joad

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (2 children)

My experience says it probably doesn't matter however you choose to tell them but do tell them, as soon as you can. They'll want input on your decisions you know. They'll probably want you to fight this. They'll probably ask a lot of you. They'll demand you "waste away enduring treatment" But do tell them anyway, for them.

That's what this is about, yeah? Just bite the bullet and do it, today. Get it out there. Then listen to them when they speak. Maybe you'll change your mind. Maybe you'll decide to fight. Maybe you will not. But don't you keep it a secret, that's against the rules. You made a deal with your family, don't break it because you're afraid of losing a fight you could win.

I dunno if it's always the case but it can have long lasting effects on them if you don't give them their chance to say goodbye. My wife (40) still has trouble with the shock and loss from 8 years old when her gramma kept her cancer from her family until the very end.

So ill shut up now, feel weird already talking so confidently bout something so personal to someone....So log off, buck up, and tell them. You know they're gonna bug the shit out of you, but who knows, maybe they'll convince you. Maybe during this trouble you all will find a deeper love together than you knew you could feel.

Obviously some Internet asswipe like me can't be trusted with something so important. Don't be afraid of their love, go tell em, right now. <3

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I dunno what dating experience you have, or even if everyone does this. Only speaking to my own experience, i used to calculate whether i was being a good mate or whether i was being taken advantage, that kind of thinking. When i met my partner all that stuff disappeared.

I glossed over the "get head right" stage but that was the most important bit for me, and may be where you are in life if you follow my path.

I am and have always been a romantic, really wanted to be with someone. Gave up even looking for dates and focused on my own head and life. Went to the gym, got a little project to do, (you know, that pat shit everyone says to do like it's fucking easy.)

It just happened to be something i was capable of in that moment. I i discovered them what it means when ppl say exercise is good for your brain. And then, while i was busy minding my business i got chased down and married by someone who saw more in me than i see in myself.

I'm definitely not special in any way, solid 6/10. That means it can happen to you even tho it sounds like I'm blowing smoke up your ass.

Anyway i don't know how to finish this, but i really empathize with where you are cuz i was there too. i just wanna extend the belief to you that you can get here, you really can.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

When you're in the right frame of mind (where you aren't looking to complete yourself with someone else) someone will find you or you will find someone where the "calculations" about proper amounts of time and money spent with them go out the window and the "work" that must be done does not feel like such.

At least that's what happened to me. When it feels natural you can tell the difference from the other ones... then you're on the right track to happiness

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

Or - OR, right, everyone can turn off location and WiFi on their phones.

Right now. But maybe not forever and so regulation to make sure that we canor even better, regs against this tracking. Because it shouldn't be necessary.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

It's not mentioned because only things rich people care about are mentioned on our rich people news programs

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I miss this meme too. Maybe it's time for a throwback week

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

Your setup is (was?) awesome but it's not necessary these days. An online search for free media streaming sites and an ad-blocker (but of course) brings up sites with at least the same polish as Netflix (the only site i have experience with) and full 1080p. When i briefly used my sister's Disney+ and my in-laws' prime, it was noticeably worse than my favorite bookmarked free streaming sites, not to mention i needn't wonder if the service owns all the seasons of the show i wish to see

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (5 children)

Talk about missin the point bro. That point being "paid services are universally inferior to free ones even when excluding the variable of cost"

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Dang, you're right! It's like noticing the arrow in fedex

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I'm sure you've already looked up the exercise that helps reset those crystals, or at least i hope so This happens to my wife too, and it does the trick but i hear it doesn't always work. Does that method not give you relief?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

?? What? Bird law got nothin to do with the web you crazy

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