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[–] [email protected] 28 points 5 months ago (2 children)

There is an often reposted study that shows people who are worse at video games are more likely to harass women. Though these are some issues with the study and it's scope, this more or less matches my experience. However, this is usually transformed via a game of telephone into suggesting higher skilled players are less misogynistic.

I have played at the top level of multiple games over different genres and it is incredibly misogynistic up there. The key difference is most of the nerds up there are less likely express it so obviously and publicly. In a lot of cases this is purely about self-preservation, teams in competitive games will be collectively penalized so there is a degree of self-policing (nobody wants to have their team disqualified with all that money on the line) and in PvE games there is usually a great deal of time (and lets be real, often money) invested in an account people don't want to lose.

It's gotten a lot better since the "tits or gtfo" and "there are no women on the internet" days, but the last time I was in these circles was only during COVID and it was still wildly misogynistic behind closed doors.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

Never did it on a walkman, but when I was a kid I was taken on a few multi-day road trips where they'd throw an audiobook on.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Reddit feels like a weirdly dead place. Depending on the sub, there can be a lot of posts and comments but it's very hard to engage with. You need to comment early and what conversation there is decays very early. A lot of it is fake too, with bots stealing comments to repost.

It's a little bit better on smaller subs, but Reddit has a way of funneling everything into a larger subs if there is one for a topic, so outside of niche topics they tend to be ghost towns.

Lemmy is more like a small, weird forum. It's hardly perfect but at least it doesn't feel like a bunch of chat bots talking to each other.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago (6 children)

Farscape! I haven't seen it since I was barely even a teenager. I loved the show and it meant a lot to me, but there are a lot of years between then and now so I've forgotten a lot. I've been shocked by how outrageously, flamingly queer it has been. Not like the unacknowledged, and often unintentional, homoeroticism of most genre shows of this era but gay sex only half way into the first season.

The show is just pretty great in general too, I love the Henson puppets and aliens so much. Ben Browder is a great lead with a ton of charisma. Just be warned if there are any topics you'd want to avoid, the show would have a fairly long list of content warnings. It can be very dark and not everything has aged perfectly.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago

I used to play a game with a guy who became a mod of it's subreddit. Absolute sweetheart and always the guy putting is hand up to help out or contribute to the group. Guy hated being a mod but something needed to be done to stop it falling apart, so up his hand went as usual.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

What are you doing with your life at the moment? Job, study, whatever.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago

Eh, yes and no. It might help illustrate the limitations of testing for some people, but it's not really telling us anything new about them. It is meant to cheaply provide an indication of how a student is fairing and has never been considered by anyone serious as some kind of comprehensive measure of intelligence. Their flaws have been known for a long time.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Probably a few times a day, depending on what I'm doing.

I work in a small office, and answer the phones. Most of the time the call needs to be transferred on. Standard operating procedure if someone can't take the call is to say they're "unavailable, can I get them to call you back?" and, if pressed, "on another call at the moment". This is usually untrue - we don't get many calls, so 99% of the time it'll either mean they're in the bathroom, having lunch or just don't want to talk to an overly needy client who keeps calling at the moment.

I'll often also lie about my position if a client questions why I can't handle their call. It's easier to say I'm just the receptionist or something isn't my department, than explain why this either needs to be handled by someone else or would be far cleaner that way.

Oh, and I lie about why I'm putting people on hold all the time. I'm often not bringing up your file or whatever - I did that while we were talking.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

I'd love to get out of this city. It's a car addicted hellscape with a lot of personal baggage in it. A fresh start would do me so much good. I dream of living somewhere not so fucking car brained.

But if it's just enough money to move, then no. I moved states when I was younger and I can't live again knowing if anything goes wrong I might be homeless with no local support network. At least here I have some family. If I was rich, sure, but not if I have to work to keep a roof over my head.

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