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Hope to run into some of them, some day. Has he gotten around to it yet?

Get enough personal funding for my parents to be taken care of.

Then build indie games for the rest of my life. Making single person RPGs. Where the stories can fill the void of my need to write novels. And the themes being a culmination of all the games I have played that had a role in guiding some sense of morality or drama. Such as the last mission on Halo Reach or the Mass Effect Trilogy, or Outer Wilds etc.

I’d want to compose, do the artwork, and the development for this, an all-out love letter to this form of storytelling. Spending years fine tuning every single detail as if it’s an elaborate sculpture. Details so small the crescendos of the OST, exactly match animations and playable cutscenes. All until, I feel I have reached a personal magnum opus, of the games released thus far.

And then say good bye. Moving on and living a simple life.

Holden Caulfield

My saves are getting monopolized by your memes 😂

Had a similar experience. Definitely agreed.

Yeah. I have found the simple act of "listening" goes so far. I had a manager whom always remembered the smallest things. Bring them up in team meetings months later. It was very motivating.

Edit: and obligatory, F*ck Cancer

Edit: tbh, I see how the question is framed as a general question too.

I think overall, therapy is a great solution. I wish it was easier to start the process in the states. Surprisingly I haven't had any experience truly understanding anti-depressants or being close to those that took them and were open talking about them. I wish I knew more about their effects on how they help with self-assurance.

Yeah, I also tend to log everything that is supporting my argument. But, it definitely feels like it could be worse "gathering evidence" sometimes. Especially if the topic is around self-improvement rather than something objective.

that’s the time to reëxamine what you just said

yeah this is definitely hard, I feel like sometimes it is hard to see what caused it. or overthinking on what is it that provoked. and then focusing on probably the wrong causation and then basing everything afterwards on that.

Genuinely asking, Do you usually ask for clarification even on that or not? I feel it would make it worse, "What did I do, to make you say that just now to me?" I would normally think it comes off as arrogant.

someone disagrees, try to politely ask why. Most people are willing to explain where you fucked up a long as you don’t get defensive.

Yeah, the problem is sometimes, the experiences don't match up properly and the explanation will still not fit the reason for disagreement. Navigating past that, is really difficult. Because I feel it then becomes a battle of egos. Because all points on the table, self-included, will not fit the solution. But, I guess maybe in these situations a third party is necessary?

can manage is to find fault with a self-serving characterization of a falsely dichotomous opposing position. So they need to be able to assign me to one or the other team

Oh wow, this is kind of what I have experienced. The tougher part for me, it was someone that wasn't a stranger. It made me self-doubt intensely. And I resorted to doing the same, without thinking that I changed myself completely at the moment. Pointing out flaws rather than bringing it back to the main "issue". (I never am one to "confront", so it felt like a new frontier).

Cutting ties with these types, has probably been the biggest mental improvement I have had. And a huge boost in most other aspects of my life. But, I still have these self-doubt questions. But, this time around trying to discover those answers via the suggestions/similar strategies listed in this thread, I feel is much healthier moving forward.

And to go all the way back, it could be said that the exact problem is that they have unfounded confidence.

And it’s sort of ironic really, because they’re generally driven by a psychological need to be right, and clinging desperately to one fixed position pretty much guarantees that right is the one thing they will not be.

This is all spot on to be honest

And to go all the way back, it could be said that the exact problem is that they have unfounded confidence.

I definitely have unfounded confidence as well, but am one to internalize all the causation or experiences that aggravate it. Leaning on those I view have "resolved" those issues I see in myself.

And it’s sort of ironic really, because they’re generally driven by a psychological need to be right, and clinging desperately to one fixed position pretty much guarantees that right is the one thing they will not be.

Which is why when I see traits like this, I tend to mirror thinking its the correct approach. Instead of realizing the flaws of absolutism.

This is great. It's a nice little addition to a list of gratitudes.

It definitely makes sense. and that's what makes it more complicated. because it is also hard to relay context to get second opinions. sometimes what's left is personal reflection, but practicing how to remove self-bias and not re-adjusting past memories to fit an argument is very difficult.

Thank you for listing those categories, it's nice seeing them out in print to properly remember.