midimalist

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

Sorry for the late answer and the text wall

  1. Depends on the severity and how much they know about my avoidance habit. I would say sorry (as genuine as I can) and told them about my problem (or most likely make up a believable one that neurotypical person can accept) that made me unable to respond to them in timely manner. That it is wholly a Me problem and not a You problem. I would try my best to complete what they ask of me or help them with something else just to keep it even. This vulnerability talk will exhaust your mental energy tbh, some people will definitely have negative reaction and rightfully so, especially in professional setting. Tho some bridges have been burnt so bad I don't even try 🫠 Still, it's very much worth it, rather than spiralling down to depression town, sinking in the guilty mud trap.
  2. I too wish I have an answer for this one. If you have the means, try finding out the reason. Maybe it's ADHD, maybe it's AvPD, maybe it's both, neither, or something else. So far, applying CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) has helped me improve, but it's not a bulletproof solution. My avoidance mostly comes from my tendency to be a perfectionist (which comes from past experience, upbringing, yadda yadda), so I try to accept that sometimes it is okay to be flawed, to disappoint, to not try my best for someone else's sake just to get their approval. Try to have healthy habits that improve mood/health. I also try not to spend too much time inside all day without actual human interaction, because I can definitely get more anxious when I haven't interact with real people (actual interaction face-to-face, not text/chat with people online) to keep me grounded.

Just keep on keeping on one step at a time.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

I used to think white wall and floor are just too basic, but having stayed in my friend's almost-all-black studio apartment made me appreciate how easy it is in white/bright-themed bathroom to see any impending cockroach before it crawls on any of my limbs :(

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Ghosting someone (multiple really) when I just couldn't handle all the things they expect me to do. It's childish and very much my own mistake for not being clear with my boundary and overestimating my mental energy.

Slowly making it up one person to the next.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

You just gotta prepare something for their birthday next year. No need for something big, just thoughtful. Add a sincere apology or two and I'm sure they will appreciate it.

I also tend to forget someone's birthday other than my partner and immediate family so I just put them in my calendar. No more accidentally forget about friends' birthday, unless I'm really busy and my ADHD acting up.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Can I be your friend?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

In general, I mostly focus on pet > plants > bathroom > kitchen > everything else.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (6 children)

Wait, I don't get it. The alternative that the guy propose sounds like a win-win though? What if one of them likes vacuuming twice a week and the other once every month? What's the right way to divide it fairly?

(I'm a woman who vacuum as needed.)

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 months ago (1 children)

As a leecher with atrocious upload speed. Thank you so much for your service.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

(I almost though this is a One Piece bait question.)

But seriously, yes I will, without hesitation. If I don't take it, someone else might and I won't even have a job as a geologist or genealogist.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 months ago (10 children)

Yes, because I need Adobe to do my meh wage part-time job in developing country from my one and only working laptop and I don't have the luxury of surplus money, time, and mental energy to do anything about it.

But I get your point. If I have the means, I will fix my broken Thinkpad and definitely install Linux there the first chance I get. Either that or Adobe finally release Linux version, which will probably be released after Half-Life 3.

I can't wait to try Endeavor (so I can finally be an obnoxious person who say "I used Arch^-based^ ^distro^, btw")

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'm from Indonesia and it's common to see distinctively different kind of pears. There are pears that are significantly yellow even when ripe, they are also more round-shaped than the usual pear-shaped pear.

Sometimes they can be more crunchy like apple.

Tbh I don't know the exact name, I just called them "yellow pear."

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I can see it, in slow-mo, the girl on the back would take out her phone and started recording; The car windows slowly rolled up.

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