Similar process to other addictions. Take it seriously if you want serious results. Find social support.
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You're not wrong. But do consider that those other people may know what works for them better than you think you do.
You have to tell me.
Of course. It's the default option. No pressure. You decide how important it is to you.
Many of the things that really matter to us are fundamentally beyond human comprehension. We cannot understand ourselves, society, our place in the world, the consequences of our actions, or the laws of the universe, and we rarely agree or cooperate with each other.
All branches and levels of government collaborate to give me a single book no bigger than the bible that contains all the law that applies to me. It's got the actual verbatim word for word active law revised at the source so even I can read and understand.
Lemmy users disagree with everything and hate themselves publicly. Ignore them. Continue acting in good faith and always use your best judgment.
You ask English speakers why they remember the nearest extinct major religions of their ancestors.
Talk to each other, apologize, and compromise. Sometimes do it your way; sometimes do it her way. Understand and forgive each other, enjoy both approaches, and be happy about the situation.
Understand it's a skill you can practice. Close your eyes, get comfy, relax your body, find a happy thought.
That's easy, I don't. But in general just practice and try to have fun. More talk doesn't mean more knowledge.
You have fallen down a rabbit hole and lost your mind to bad ideology. What you need to do is get your mind right but it's not a quick or easy process.