OceanSoap

joined 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago

I'm a designer. I work with engineers.

I'll stay a designer, lol.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago

No idea, but I love them. I am terrible at tracking otherwise, and the app has saved me so many times from being caught unprepared.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago

It's going to vary wildly. No two relationships are alike.

But, some of my favorite parts are coming home to the same place and getting a smile and a hug, deep conversations about random topics, weekend walks or am coffee trips. Planning your day/weekend/month/year, working towards mutual goals.

There's a genuine calmness when you're dating someone you can be yourself around. It's one of the best things about being in a relationship

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Ohhhh nOOO ten minutes???

Just drop your poor kid off with one of his friends and stay home yourself, you sound like you ruin everyone's good time all the time.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Yeah, I recently went from a 2005 to a 2018, and even the jump in that was amazing! Bluetooth for music and for phonecalls, it's changed my driving experience to be a much better one.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

My mom was a speech therapist in schools and my dad was an aerospace engineer. Theoretically they should have a very cushy retirement life. Nope.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I can currently cover a $1000 expense, but if something else happens that costs that much I'll have to use my credit card, and if a third thing happens I'm fucked.

My relationship with money isn't good ("not wise" might be a better term), and now that I know my parents as an adult, I understand that both of them are terrible with money. Do I blame them? I try not to, but sometimes that's hard when I see how they continue to make poor $$ choices. My mom constantly made over 6 figures for a good portion of her later life, but now can't work, and she has nothing but social security to live off of. Through the years she's used up all her retirement and savings a few times on things like saving houses she eventually loses anyway.

My dad just dropped the news that he owes 80k to the IRS because he's been pulling from his retirement for years now to sustain his lifestyle in a high-cost area.

Myself? I didn't really get my shit together financially until I was in my mid 30s. Mostly my fault, though there were a few things that happened outside of my control that forced me to "start over" financially. That's life.

My relationship with money now is respectful. I take the time and care to slowly work my way through understanding what to do and how to do it. I only have one credit card and it's a low amount, so it can't get wildly out of control but it's there if I need it.

Right now I've got around 1.5k in savings (not including my 401/Roth). My plan is to save up to 10k for an emergency fund and then start to invest what I save up after that.

I listen to a lot of Caleb Hammer on YouTube. It helps, haha.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Of course, I never said you had to continue doing the same job. One that is part time, not stressful, and where your responsibilities are minimal.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Most people get purpose from being out in society and being a part of the workforce. Not everyone hates their job.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (6 children)

I'll keep myself in a low key part time job. I've read studies that retirees die sooner if they don't feel like they have a purpose.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

A salad.

Was waiting for my flight out of LAX, so I grabbed a salad from the closest spot. $20, but whatever. Open it up and the ham smelled sour and all the iceberg lettuce was slimy.

I've never asked for a refund on a salad before, but for 20-fucking-dollars it should have been chopped up and prepped that very day. Yuck.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 month ago

It really should be contextual. Every family is different, and each familial relationship is different.

I've heard him say children don't owe their parents money just because they're their parents, and I'd agree with that statement. The parents are the ones who decide to have the baby, how to raise them, etc, so i think it's wrong if parents think they're entitled to their children's money.

But that doesn't mean a child should never help their parents out financially. Morally, if you love your parents and can swing it, I think the right thing to do is help your parents if they need it. But there's a big difference between asking a child to help and feeling entitled to a child's help.

 

Finally found the man I thought I would marry, but the breakup came out of nowhere and I'm struggling to cope. What are the ways you've dealt with heartbreak in the past?

 

Any animal.

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