Mrs_deWinter

Writing stories/novels.

Chances are your initial expense will be zero. You most likely already own everything you could need. Almost everything available for purchase is unnecessary or completely ridiculous. Your friends and family won't even know what to get you for Christmas over this new hobby.

Fill your everyday routine with daydreams and inspiration, imagine scenes and dialogues while your mind would otherwise go idle. Stuck in traffic? Turn up the music and imagine something. Bored doing chores? Picture yourself as one of your characters. Annoyed by strangers? Put them in your story and let a piano fall on their heads.

I truly think everybody should write. It's such a delightful thing. Not to publish anything obviously - but because it's fun, it's easy and it's completely free.

It's impossible to avoid every possible trauma trigger when making a movie. The fact that some people might seriously be unable to watch sex scenes shouldn't mean we cannot make them at all. If sex is an absolute red flag for you in movies, watch PG-13.

Other example: My mom doesn't like violence in movies. (Doesn't mind sex scenes btw.) And that just means she can't (and doesn't want to) watch most recently produced shows. And that's just how it is.

Obviously there's a market for movies with sex scenes in them, or Hollywood wouldn't make them. You will just have to live with the fact that your in the minority here.

On the other hand, watching porns makes either make people horny or uncomfortable depending on their situation.

For teenagers maybe. Most adults can regulate their emotions enough to handle it. I mean, if you watch movies with your mother on a regular basis just laugh akwardly over all the scenes she doesn't want you to see and that's it. With anyone else, why does it bother you if they're watching with a smirk? It's not like people break out into orgies watching a small sex scene.

I think what's happening with people getting overly irritated with sex scenes in movies is, in last consequence, the habit of puritan self-censorship. "Oh, we shouldn't watch that and be aroused by it, that's so indicent. I will be embarrassed if someone catches me doing such a shameful thing."

Once you accept how normal and beautiful human sexuality is, sex scenes become just that - normal. A realistic part of the stories we like to be told.

Most action scenes could be skipped aswell with a black screen and showing the defeated party dead or incapitated on the floor afterwards.

Most landscape shots, portrait close-ups, or otherwise non-verbal scenes could be skipped entirely.

Thinking about it - most movies could be completely omitted by just telling the audience the end result with a few lines of text on screen.

Let people enjoy things. Just because you don't care for sex scenes says nothing about them being invalid or unnecessary for other people.

Or I'll just watch a good movie with a well made sex scene. Why does it bother you if others enjoy that?

As someone who too enjoys sex scenes in movies and doesn't really get the hate for them - I really dislike (most) porn, and probably for the same reasons.

Sex and intimacy are a huge part of human relationships. Sex scenes in movies show (and not just tell) those relationships, where they stand, how they develop. There is no real intimacy in (most) porn. Porn doesn't tell stories, it doesn't show human relationships, it just depicts body parts smashing into each other basically. Very rarely a porn video is good enough to suspend my disbelief so I can imagine the important, the romantic part of it and forget that I'm watching either the product of an explorative industry or the fetish of a couple who film themselves because they like to have themselves watched by strangers. But to show me the dynamic between two fleshed out characters, how it changes over time, and what relevance sex has to them - porn can't do that.

I'm in the EU, using Vivaldi, and have the delay since yesterday. It's not on every video though. Seems like UBlock and YouTube are fighting each other every time I open a new link.

Good tips in the comments - although in my experience sometimes it just doesn't work. I've got 3 litter boxes for one cat, they are accessible to him, private, and clean. He still poops on the floor when I'm not at home (or asleep).

Animals can have behavioral issues just like people.

This may depend on the country but I as a therapist ask everyone anyway. And I've experienced many, many people over the years being afraid of speaking up. It's always a moment of relief when it's out there and they realize I'm not freaking out over it.

I've pretty much heard it all. Including the various ways people try to approach the subject while still unsure how I will react. And I do think that is something you could try if you're unsure about your therapist - talk to them about your suicidal thoughts and see how they react before you confirm plans or attempts.

Chances are of course they can get quite a bit from your way of talking about it, because you're definitely not the first person with those thoughts in front of them. The thing is - suicidal ideation is, depending on the type of disorder, quite common. If we'd admitted anyone who thought about suicide to a psych ward immediately they would be bursting at the seams and we'd get nothing done at all. So that's not happening. As long as you can convincingly agree with your therapist on a plan forward (which could mean: Okay, I promise not to kill myself until next Tuesday) you don't have to be admitted if you don't want to. Which also would be an option of course. Psychiatric wards are emergency departments. They are supposed to be there for you when you're seeing no light at all and in my experience, at least where I live and work, in fact have saved quite a few lifes.

There are cases where psychiatric admission is the right call though. Sometimes it's literally life saving. Depression isn't static - it goes up and down, goes loud, goes silent. When you're deep in a life crisis, when you're feeling like you're losing your fucking mind and are actually about to kill yourself those are the places to go to get you over those critical days or weeks to recalibrate and reconsider. I've personally spoken to many patients who were completely releived afterwards and glad that there was such a place for them. If the alternative is a lost life, psychiatry is a valid attempt to get better, even if it doesn't work for everyone.

Of course it's an even better route to get there by admitting oneself - I just believe the likelihood of that happening depends a lot on how afraid people are of psychiatric clinics. And they do vary of course. I personally still would go though. Before I end my life I guess there wouldn't be anything to lose anyway.

I do think that is true. I've worked in a clinic through the whole pandemic, which meant mandatory tests everyday. Cought two asymptomatic infections this way. With the first one I had a very light headache - I would have thought absolutely nothing of it if it weren't for the test. Second time I've got no symptoms whatsoever. I then got it again for round three and that one suuucked.

Who knows how many had it were none the wiser.

Basically, "every opinion I don't like is a religion."