LemoineFairclough

joined 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

I've used reddit.com before but I never made many posts or comments and I haven't used it in years. I'm pretty sure there was a period where I visited it regularly though.

I don't think I've ever posted anything with facebook.com or twitter.com either. I never browsed them for fun, and if I want to coordinate with someone in my family I just contact them directly. I do use youtube.com a lot though.

I tried using pleroma but I haven't used that in a while either. I prefer lemmy much more (probably because posts being different from comments provides more structure).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

I care about many things related to encrypted real-time communication, including what security engineers recommend (since their judgements probably incorporate things I probably don't even know about or understand), so I don't think XMPP is the best option for me.

https://soatok.blog/2024/08/04/against-xmppomemo/ https://soatok.blog/2024/07/31/what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-signal-competitor/

https://www.privacyguides.org/en/real-time-communication/

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

The discussion is probably about https://lemmy.world/u/FlyingSquid

I see "50.7K Comments" and "Joined 1 year ago" at https://sh.itjust.works/u/[email protected] and 50.7*1000/(8760 hours) = 5.78767 posts per hour

[–] [email protected] -4 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I'd be surprised if someone born around or after 1995 would actually have to know this

Only 3.7 percent of CarMax sales nationwide are for manual cars

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

*(char*)0 = 0; - What Does the C++ Programmer Intend With This Code? - JF Bastien - C++ on Sea 2023

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFIqNZ8VbRY

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

An overarching question

You should probably discuss boundary setting with someone you trust. This situation might be only one part of a broader issue with your relationship with your parents, and you can probably make that relationship more beneficial and less detrimental.

Moving out

Once you are legally and financially able to, you could move out (or take action to improve your financial situation to make it more likely you'll be able to do so in the future). Distance can allow a relationship to change to your benefit. It seems that the majority of adults in the wealthiest countries don't live with their parents: http://static3.businessinsider.com/image/5908feb9fcd8eb1e008b4681-1200/young-adults-living-at-home.png https://64.media.tumblr.com/42facc68776260a335473a2553bb7f59/410ac9df6d9c28a0-9f/s1280x1920/8be58d13087dc686c9edcab713f63fc4c538e99a.jpg

The law

Note that, unless you have another reason to not want to be around your parents, I doubt that involving a state institution (like child protective services, a police department, a prosecutor's office) in your relationship with your parents will be helpful. Knowing relevant laws is more useful to better understand what is socially accepted behavior, and to be able to know what public institutions are available to help you if you find yourself in a situation where they're likely to be helpful.

Also, consider whether it's appropriate to tell other people you know about this situation. If you do choose to discuss this with other people, I would follow an escalation procedure so that information doesn't need to spread farther than necessary (for example, tell friends first, then if you don't see improvement tell adults that live near you, then if you don't see improvement tell adults in positions of responsibility (like teachers), and so on).

Privacy

You could inform your parents that state institutions might become involved if they cause you to be recorded while in your bedroom without your consent:

in many places, it is indeed illegal to put cameras in your child's room without their knowledge or consent.

property owners face some limitations when attempting to install cameras throughout a rental property. All cameras must be visible; hidden or spy cameras are not permissible in a tenant’s residence. Similarly, CCTV cameras are forbidden in bathrooms, bedrooms, toilets, and other private areas throughout a rented unit.

These quotes are discussing cameras, but I expect the same laws and principles apply to audio recordings.

If you receive mail to an address and are an adult, I expect you have rights similar to that of a tenant.

Money

It seems your parents cannot force you to buy anything, and surely not an amazon echo. They may have a right to receive money you gained as a compensation for services (as wages) during minority for some reason, but otherwise what is yours is yours, and your parents should only use what is yours in order to promote your interests (like your health, security, and so on), and probably they should only do that when it's necessary (in situations where there is a clear and urgent need).

You may want to ensure you have deposited any money you have acquired into a bank account you own (so there is a record of how long you had it, so it would be more questionable if they tried to claim it isn't yours). It might also be useful to use a separate bank account to receive and account for wages (since it seems there are special exceptions for wages, so keeping clear records of what money is wages and what is not might be useful), and it might be useful to have a UTMA custodial account (like one described at https://www.fidelity.com/learning-center/personal-finance/custodial-account-for-kids) (to enable making it even more clear what property has been transferred to you) (note that this does allow a custodian to use the property, but only for your benefit) (note you probably can't "transfer" money to yourself, so any money you already acquired should probably be managed without using a UTMA or UGMA account).

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

A community named like "Ask Lemmy" would probably be most useful to get questions answered, like [email protected] or [email protected]

There probably aren't enough people with historian questions to have enough questions to get people checking a community every day/week, so questions on that or any other specific topic would probably get seen by more people by just making a post in an "Ask Lemmy" community. However, [email protected] exists with 10 posts since 28 June 2023! I expected to not find such a community or for it to have significantly fewer posts.

You can also search specifically for communities, comments, users, etc.: https://sh.itjust.works/search?q=Ask&type=Communities&listingType=All&page=1&sort=TopAll

There is also [email protected] and other "what is" communities, which would be more useful for that specific type of question.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

If you're not trying to change other people's behavior, what are you doing?

Finding sources you can trust is helpful. For example, I trust the ArchWiki and POSIX.1-2017, and I follow instructions I find there, which helps me accomplish things without having to spend time thinking about the rationale of those instructions (since the instructions have probably been independently reviewed many times, and if there was something wrong with them I'd probably have heard about that). It would probably also be helpful to be able to trust instructions at https://libretube.dev/ for similar reasons.

I don't think keeping my thoughts to myself is a good idea, since I don't want other people to disrupt my life (unintentionally or intentionally), and giving notice about how I want to spend my life is helpful.

I do think my comments are helpful (and that helpfulness is relevant). If I didn't think that I wouldn't be commenting.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

The end of the article does try to take a hopeful tone:

“I definitely prefer talking with people in real life, though,” he added.

I don't necessarily agree with everything though:

While some of the culture around Character.AI is concerning, it also mimics the internet activity of previous generations who, for the most part, have turned out just fine.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago (4 children)

I don't think you answered my questions.

I started discussing your likes and dislikes, as an Internet forum is for conversation. How you choose to engage in that conversation is your choice, but it doesn't mean a conversation isn't happening.

The reason replied to you is that I wanted to rebut statements that I consider to be incorrect, and to save other people from taking time to do that and from seeing your comment go unanswered. I don't really care about your replies other than to accomplish those goals. You may perceive that as being disingenuous (though I suspect your behavior is more related to the fact I have disagreements with you, or some preexisting inclination), but I don't really care about that.

Assumptions do change people's behavior, probably in many significant ways every day: "it doesn't have to be fact to cause people to act". Perhaps you should spend more time expressing your opinions in a compelling way so that people have more knowledge, and therefore don't need to hold as many assumptions.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Those URLs came from about:addons. I think it's important to provide as much provenance as I can to help people get programs, so I didn't edit the URL Firefox provided to me.

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