I'd vote against shift phones. Support is also a crucial part of what you're paying for and most of their communication on their website is in German, which doesn't tell much good about getting customer support in another language. Maybe they don't offer support in English or maybe very limited with longer waiting times.
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It's based on unifiedpush standard https://unifiedpush.org/. So a central notification middleman like google firebase for all your apps (that support it). There's messengers like mercurygram, fluffychat, Molly that support it and you can also send notifications yourself via a simple curl command.
It's a more complex setup to have vpn active on your router though. It's not noob proof, because you'll get blocked from websites like Netflix. I have an openwrt based router that allows be to use device based vpn policies, which is more efficient and effective
I see a lot of support for Mulvad but they don't own their hardware afaict. How can you trust that the hosting provided doesn't have backdoor access? Azire for example owns, collocates and minimize their hardware (driverless etc.)
Ntfy - no more google reading notifications
Jellyfin - media served without questionable Plex account
Arch - on so many levels allows me a private computing experience
Posteo - simple but efficient email service
Resilio sync - cloudless syncing
Ssh over wireguard to a container in my bastion
Depends on how they're implemented. Signal and WhatsApp are e2e encrypted, but they track your phone number, your contacts and IP address. Maybe even metadata
Same problem with ghost touch here lol
Also no plans to support it. It meets their requirement of long support.
Me too fairphone for the repairability of it and long update support.
All fair points but some can be avoided by running discord in browser
Plus you need to hire less people to manage all services yourself. You can also avoid vendor lock in if you have z proper policy, but most managers don't think long-term or even care. I started not caring about costs much anymore, it's not a me problem, it's a manager problem. I just do enough effort to choose the right setup