I strongly recommend EndeavourOS. You'll have more flexibility to experiment with different setups and greater access to software.
Hawk
So I use reverse proxies etc with my containers for others services
But KeePass with rsync is easier for passwords. I just use termux on my phone
I recommend using a docker container, they make the whole thing painless and easy.
I think the Linuxserver.io one is what I used from memory.
Dictating notes into my journal (eg obsidian/mediawiki/dokuwiki) is very nice though.
The 3d stuff was great! The NVIDIA glasses were wild!
It's a shame it died off tbh.
Well the folding aspect is pretty good.
Software otoh...
Yeah if this is for a small number of users, I would recommend wireguard or tailgate.
Port forwarding is asking for trouble.
Oh yeah fair.
I haven't bothered with DNS level blocking because ublock use so good. #todo.
Yeah but ublock origin more than makes up for it.
And Dark Reader. I simply don't understand why chrome doesn't have dark mode on android.
Element is a complete disaster.
Like, completely unmaintained and broken.
Matrix works over i2P and Tor, just proxy the service.
P2P chat could include retroshare but it's not really a solution due to a variety of ux issues.
Perhaps more complex then what you're hoping for.
But consider taking a look at hyprland. I've been very impressed with how modular and smooth this window manager is