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Cool!

In any case, I admire your bravery and the firm dedication to be yourself. I wish you the best of luck!

I feel like I always had that "I don't socialize correctly" vibes, always feeling like I'm out of context and weird and not cool.

But then I realized something.

Cool people are literally the same. They don't do some special "cool" things, they just better fit the given community with their traits. I can be cool too, I just need a room of nerds!..and apparently YES, that's all it took. Now I am cool in my circle, respected by my friends and they actually invite me to spend time with them and are happy when I can turn up. And I also have a girlfriend who adores me and is happy to spend every bit of time with me, too!

Also, all the culture, all the behaviors are all interconnected. You can absolutely have someone into national dances or writing books suddenly turn to hard rock and be completely integral with it! Behaviors, art forms, forms of expression constantly reappear in society, and a lot of what we see today we've seen centuries or millennia ago.

So whichever way you socialize, you are not doing it wrong. You are not weird or out of place - society always had people like you, society has them now, and your best bet is to find your people. You are not outdated or ahead of time - modern culture is not fundamentally different from anything that has been before or will be after. You are a real integral part of society, in whatever form you exist, and you create and form it.

I feel that "I'm not pretty" stuff too!

But wary of taking estrogen and going with transitioning for social reasons and also because I kinda want to remain sexually active and keep a solid dick lol

So, crossdressing and some makeup it is!

Mind if I ask you more? What was the nature of crime? How do you feel it changed you? It's very rare nowadays to see stories of people who feel prison actually helped them becoming better people, and I'd love to know more.

Of course, only if you feel like talking about it; if not, this is alright!

Denial is a common way to cope with all sorts of dysphoria when societal pressure is applied and can influence your decisions.

Congrats on coming out and coming to terms with yourself!

You raised a very important point, as I see it.

One thing we should remember is that incels become so not through the evil hearts, but through disappointment in society in general and women in particular.

Blaming incels only makes it worse, in a way.

Calling out? Good, especially in private. Going hostile? No, thanks. While incel mentality may often make a person aggressive, this is absolutely the case when return aggression is more of a reinforcement than anything.

For you personally I wish to find the person who fits and likes you. I would warn against dating services, though, as they are known drivers of frustration - and they are designed to keep you hooked, which means not actually giving you the person you'll love (and leave the service for good). Communities around common interests seem to me like the best place to find both friends and lovers.

As an option, I'd recommend lemmy.today

It's an instance that stays away from all the drama and just federates with everyone unless this becomes a moderation problem.

Wanna look at general stuff on lemmy.world? Sure! Check tankies on lemmy.ml or lemmygrad or hexbear? Alright, who are we to stop you? Wanna porn? lemmynsfw got you covered! And literally anything else on the Lemmyverse is open to you.

Welcome!

Thanks, had a laugh at "insecurity devices" :D

In 2023, Microsoft and Google consumed 48 TWh of electricity (24 TWh each).

Each of them separately.

The red is completely clear and very much red. Doubling down on the suggestion to check up.

I think what people here miss out is that it's not meant to immediately become a retail choice.

First, some specific industries might be interested, then others, then, maybe, common consumers.