The manual istall now seems too cluttered for me, aswell as the caddy webserver configuration. The AIO probably has an more up to date configuration which is vetted by the community.
I will try to configure the AIO version how i like it, but still apply what i have learned connecting tailscale (https://github.com/nextcloud/all-in-one/discussions/5439)
@[email protected] your example helped clarify the network and service linking, thank you.