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Dating/romantic relationships. I usually manage to uncover multiple deal breakers on the first date, and I'm pretty sure that's more of a "me" problem, than a problem with the type of people I date.
Out of curiosity, what are some examples of what you would consider to be dealbreakers?
Oh man, I've really slowed down my dating, so it's hard to remember many of them. I know some of these are actually reasonable, but others are just me looking for faults/expecting perfection:
Wow, call me triggered here XD I'm interested what your reasoning here is.
You could probably describe me as a "functional alcoholic", so I find it pretty hard to imagine that I could be compatible with someone who never drinks. If I were to casually get to know someone through platonic interactions (mutual friends, sports, classes, etc.), I might be able to get to know someone well enough where it could work, but if the initial "get to know you" phase is through 1 on 1 dates, I just can't see it working out.