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Honestly it’s sort of the principle of it. Like the car has it, it’s already cost the manufacturer to install it sure there are ongoing dev costs for some things, but not all.

I know this isn't an obvious point, but if you got the car how you wanted it, it would actually cost more for things you may not care about. The complaint then would be "why is the car so expensive? Why don't they sell a more basic version?"

When a manufacture has to actually build different cars with different features at time of manufacture it drives up the costs for ALL models. They can't easy substitution when market conditions change and could be stuck with only the premium versions which cost more. A great example of this is the Ford Lightning. There were as many as 12 different model/trim levels. One of the primary complaints of prospective buyers is only the premium priced versions were on dealership lots. This is what you get.

The car is cheaper with the addons disabled. If forced to sell with all addons enabled, the car would be much more expensive for things may people don't care about.

So for example I pay for heated seats. Then I sell the car, and the new owner has to “buy” heated seats again.

I'm not understanding your argument here. If we're talking Tesla, and you bought the $2k Acceleration Boost, if you sold the car to someone, that $2k feature would still be there. Who is removing paid enabled addons? Can you cite an example?

On top of that there are issues with servicing and also forced firmware updates.

Besides NTSB recall firmware updates, a you can make a Tesla not force a firmware update. It may nag though.

This isn't something new though, its just the delivery. About 18 years ago, there was a Honda firmware that I DID NOT WANT INSTALLED. I had to take the Honda 2003 car to a Honda dealer for warranty work, and SPECIFICALLY TOLD THEM NOT TO INSTALL THAT FIRMWARE. They did anyway. So this is nothing new to EVs or even modern cars.

A friend was late to work the other day because his Tesla was doing an update when he tried to leave, like what happens if someone was trying to rush a partner to a hospital or something and you happen to jump in the car as it’s mid way through an update.

Your friend may not have told you the whole story.

A Tesla firmware will prompt you when it wants to install. It will tell you "this takes about 25 minutes to complete and the car will be unusable during that time". You can choose to install it immediately by pressing the button when prompted, or set a time for it to wake the car and install it. Even if you accidentally say "install now" it gives you a 2 minute countdown on screen to cancel it. So your buddy either scheduled it to install 30 min before he was supposed to go to work, or he hit the button to install it, waited for the entire 2 minute cancellation period to expire and did nothing.

It’s not just waiting to charge the car that’s the issue, it’s waiting for the charger… when each vehicle takes up to 30min-an hour to get a meaningful amount of range back suddenly you need like 10x as many charging stations as you had petrol/diesel pumps.

You're projecting for a problem that likely won't happen in the scale you're describing. Battery tech is evolving fast. Modern batteries can charge in a fraction of time of those even sold 3 years ago. This charging speed of battery as well as faster chargers look to be solving this.

Further, 80% of EV drivers charge at home. source Nearly 0% of petrol drivers refuel at home, so comparing the two isn't equivalent.