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I'm asking because it's a very normal thing to do here.

When you enter a room, but also things like a hairdresser or say a small cafe, you say hello to the people there and say goodbye when leaving. Or when taking a bus, you say hello to the driver and goodbye or thank him when getting off.

I was only recently told by some online friends of mine that this is pretty weird in other places. So I'm wondering if I'm (or my country) is the weird one or them

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (12 children)

I started greeting people more in the last year or so. Some people at work have started saying Good morning, etc. as well.

Most of the time in public I find that my greeting is ignored. This bothers me because I assume people are starting from a negative assumption about me: I want something from them, I need a conversation, I'm hitting on them, etc. I am not trying to do any of those things, just wishing people a good day. It seems that we as a society have allowed our fears and social awkardness to overcome being polite.

It should not be an issue for two strangers to say good morning to each other but apparently it is for most.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I am not trying to do any of those things

You kinda are tho, you're expecting them to interact with you and you're assuming negative things about them based on them not being interested.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

No. I am not.

I am surprised that anyone would equate a simple greeting with requiring a conversation or asking someone out.

All I ask is a same or similar Hello, tiny smile, whatever simple human acknowledhement you care to give. One does not even have to slow their pace to do this.

Ignoring someone that just wished you a good day is rude.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

You have no idea what they’re experiencing at the moment though. Maybe they’ve just been served divorce papers or pulled the plug on their mother. Or maybe they were just sold to/hit on by someone with the exact same approach. People live in too high a density in most places to expect patience from strangers, because it will be taken advantage of and used up.

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