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Good rule to live by (lemmy.ca)

submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 41 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I used to live by that rule, but it turns not everyone likes to be treated the way I like to be treated. So now I just ask how they want to be treated.

Just a trick I picked up from the BDSM subs ;)

[–] [email protected] 15 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Exactly. I had to learn this too. I am unusual in a number of ways. When I treat people how I want to be treated I am often mistreating them and damaging the relationship. People are different and need different things. You have to communicate rather than unilaterally apply your self-empathy.

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