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I'm not afraid of being rejected I just can't do small talk. It takes me time to figure out how to respond to something which usually causes an awkward silence for others but I've gotten used to it. If I do go up to someone and speak chances r that beyond that first sentence that I had already planned out I won't be able to say anything else beyond "mmm" so how do I solve that?
People live talking about themselves. If you get them talking by asking some genuine questions, they'll go for it. Iirc this is a good video to explain it briefly: https://youtu.be/vU-ibdHkz4Y?si=AgoPUH873IjpYJ0a
Don't forget though, you're there to get to know folks. Not turn them into a science project or run a specific method. It's okay to stumble over words or say you've had trouble making new friends lately (and leave it at that). People like helping innately if you ask or are a little vulnerable
"Do you like toast too!?"