this post was submitted on 21 Oct 2023
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I see myself in what you described. My parents aren't dead, but they separated when I was 12. My mom was an alcoholic that couldn't keep a job and wasn't there most of the time and my father was absent.
So starting from 12 years old, I had to cook, clean and do the best I could with what I had. Sometimes, there wasn't much food.
It fucked me up(generalized anxiety with bouts of light depression). I realize that now. I might never feel normal and that's fine but I sometimes wish I had somewhat of a present parent in my life.
You know I can’t help but feel like more discipline would have sucked. But I think I would have appreciated it as an adult.
Yeah, a lot of things that sucks when you are a kid are helpful when you are an adult.
I am the last kid of a family of 4 kids, so already there wasn't much rules or discipline for me as the 3 other kids did a lot of things that my parents weren't really stressed about a.lot.of.things anymore.
I would have appreciated more discipline to help me in my adult life as I struggled a lot through the beginning of my adult life. And still today, some bad habits remains.