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It depends. If the person I’m having a discussion with is cool. I’ll admit defeat. If the person is being an ass hat. I’ll first see if I can bend the data a bit to squeeze in my point. If I can’t do that. I’ll look for fringe information. If that doesn’t work. I’ll just ghost them.
Also, if the person is a dick and “technically” right. I will tell you how technically wrong you are all day like Lemmy was my job. However, if you’re cool I’ll admit that we are both technically right, and part ways.
TLDR: it’s ok to be right. Just don’t be a dick about it.
I think your problem is that you think it is as defeat. It’s a win, your learned something new and the other person spent his time for you. In these cases I am thank them regardless.
As I said to the other person.
Either way I learned something new. But if you’re a dick I’m not going to let you know that. At best I’m not going to “feed the trolls” and at worst I’m going to make you work for being a dick.
See it has less to do with being wrong. Hell, we’re all wrong sometimes. It has to do with how someone approaches me. All of us have some knowledge that someone else doesn’t. That’s ok. But that doesn’t make you or I special. Likewise, our lack of that particular knowledge doesn’t make us dumb either. So, why be a dick about it?
Also, if you can believe this. I get into quite a few religious debates. I know. It sounds crazy. In those discussions things aren’t always as cut and dry as say 2+2=4. People get really passionate about what amounts to nothing but interpretation and opinion.
I actually found that if you are polite and thank person when you learn something new, the dickerry decreases. If you behave combative, then it stays high. Your choice, of course, but you may want to try it. Internet is a strange place, where normally good people start behaving aggressive, insulting others, but I found that quite often it can be corrected - you just have to take first step.