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Hello, Britain! I will be emigrating to the UK in a week and I have questions and could use advice. Here are 20 questions!
(lemmy.world)
I have most of the big details sorted, but because I am going to be new in the country aside from a few family visits and one business trip, I have far from expert knowledge on living in the UK. I try to research as much as I can, but there are limits.
These questions are going to probably be subjective, and some may be dependent on where we're going to live in Britain long-term, something I can't tell you until I get a job, but I trust people on Lemmy more than some random Google search to tell me what they actually think.
So, here are my 20 questions- although some are really multipart questions- and I will probably end up asking more based on what I find out. I felt like 20 was an exhausting enough number. They are not in any particular order, I had about 8 and then I kept thinking of others and stopped trying to organize them. Please feel free to answer as many or as few as you like. Assume we won't be getting rich off of my salary, but also won't be living in a council flat.
- Which mobile phone company would you recommend and why? Getting a UK phone number for both me and my daughter is going to be one of the very first things on my itinerary.
- Obviously, I will need a place to put my money. I would rather go with a building society than a bank. Which would you recommend?
- Which supermarket(s) would you recommend? Which should we avoid and why? Believe it or not, my daughter is happy to eat the cheap supermarket sushi they have in supermarkets here. Is that available there?
- What should I think about when getting us a GP? I have health issues and need to get a National Insurance number as quickly as possible, but should I wait until we have a more permanent place to live? What are my options there?
- My daughter is a 14-year-old neurodivergent lesbian who has no problem letting people know exactly what she thinks and also likes to go on long tangents about esoteric subjects that interest her, which makes it difficult enough for her to find friends in the U.S., but I have no idea how she's going to find friends in the UK. She will hopefully make some in school (it's sure as hell been hard for her here, and it's going to be hard on her there being foreign), but I'd love other suggestions on ways she might make friends in the UK that might not be a way in the U.S. She is super into Japanese stuff, but slightly off Japanese stuff, like obscure anime and electronica bands from the 1970s and 1980s, although she also loves punk rock and Hello Kitty 🤷. She also is a very talented artist and spends all day sketching in sketchbooks and on her iPad.
- This is going to sound really stupid... do I just carry around my passport or how do I show ID if someone needs it? I'm not going to have a driving license.
- What difficulties do you think I might encounter trying to rent a flat or house? I really don't know how the process works in Britain. In the U.S. they often do a credit check and you provide first and last month's rent, plus a security deposit. Utilities are not always included.
- Once we get settled, is Ikea the best place to go to get furniture (I don't find what they have to be all that comfortable), or are the similar affordable options?
- How about house wares? We care much more about utility over aesthetics, especially when getting established. I'd rather have cheap, durable plates and bowls and pots and pans than pretty, expensive ones.
- And how about clothing? I do not care at all about fashion, I just want decent clothing that will look appropriate at a job. Obviously, I have plenty of that already, but it will need to be replaced eventually. Where do I go for cheap and durable over expensive and fashionable?
- Are ISPs as dependent on where you live as they are here? We have very few options available and they are entirely geographically dependent. ISP recommendations would be great. I would especially love an ISP that didn't have data caps.
- If I watch everything on a monitor via my computer, do I still need to pay a TV license fee or do I only need to play it if I want to use iPlayer? How does that all work? I definitely will not have an actual TV for a while.
- My daughter's absolute favourite breakfast treat is going to a diner and getting corned beef hash. Is that a thing over there? Is there an okay breakfast place to take her to so she can have it once in a while?
- I'm guessing this is a no, but if anyone knows of anywhere in the UK that serves decent Mexican food, even if it is just somewhere I can take her to as a weekend treat, please tell me. That is her absolute favourite kind of food in general. By "Mexican food," I mean "the shit they call Mexican food in America which isn't really Mexican food" (you might notice I'm not a fan), so you would have to be familiar with both in order to answer this.
- I have been looking for a long time and I just haven't found anything good- does anyone know a video or series of videos I can show to my kid as a basic "life in the UK in the 2020s as a teen" primer? I try to tell her all that I can, but it's not like I can tell her what it's like to be a teen in the UK in 2025. I was last there as an adult in the 2000s, before she was even born, and Britain was already a noticeably different place from the last time I was there in the 1990s. I mean I know she's going to make a lot of cultural faux pas, but it would be nice to find a way to minimize them beyond me telling her things like what "pants" means in the UK and that "cunt" is not thought of in the UK as the horrific word it's considered to be in the U.S.
- This is just something I've been wondering from job ads: when they say "casual dress," what do they mean? In the U.S. that means you can show up in a T-shirt and sweats. I don't want to make my own faux pas there.
- If we end up having to move to Wales- I am interviewing for a job in Swansea this week- it's my understanding that my daughter will have to study Welsh in school. Does anyone have any experience moving to Wales with a teenager who is suddenly put into a (what I assume would be very remedial) Welsh language class? Any advice there?
- I basically never carry cash on me in the U.S. at this point. What might I need to carry it for there or is it also unnecessary?
- Do UK institutions care about your US credit rating?
- I hate Marmite. Is that still a capital offence?
It depends on where you end up as the signal strength in the areas you frequent will dictate this to a degree. If you’re in a city or large town then generally it’s down to what you decide to go with, but if you’re more rural there may only be some providers that offer a decent signal. Best to ask the locals what they use.
Nationwide is one of the larger building societies and one of the more mainstream banks over here too, so always a safe bet. A lot of banks and BS don’t have that many local branches now though, and more are closing every month - that’s not necessarily an issue, as the online services and apps for them here are far better than in the US from what I gather.
I already answered this one in a reply to someone else.
Most GPs have catchment areas so see who the local ones are to where you end up living.
I think schools are a lot more receptive here than in the US to this sort of thing, but someone else may be able to provide a more detailed answer to this.
A lot of places won’t ask to see it unless you’re buying booze or other certain age restricted things like knives etc. There’s a scheme over here called “Challenge 25”, so if you look obviously older than that you should’t get asked in supermarkets and the like. I’d certainly look at getting a driving licence though, even if only a provisional one so that you can leave the passport at home.
More or less the same situation here - they may ask for references but when you explain your situation they should be understanding enough, albeit you may need to put down more of a deposit. Any deposit should be placed aside by the letting agent or landlord into a tenancy deposit scheme, be wary if they don’t mention this as it’s a legal requirement afaik. Utilities and council tax (property taxes) will not be included unless otherwise noted and you will be expected to get accounts set up after moving in. Take photos of the meters when you do so you can provide the readings to the companies.
IKEA is a good starting point, but you can often find cheaper through second hand means (charity shops, Facebook marketplace etc). Bear in mind that your closest IKEA store may be a fair distance away - 20 miles here is not like 20 miles in the US due to our less car-centric road and town layouts and close quarters in urban areas.
Any of the big four supermarkets offer a range of home wares (Tesco, Sainsburys, Asda, Morrisons). Morrisons range isn’t as good as the others though. Also dependant on the size of store.
Charity shops are a start, Matalan is a good dedicated shop. Again the big four supermarkets have options, with Morrisons yet again trailing behind the others in terms of size of range offered. Primark is good and cheap enough too but can be limited size wise. A lot will depend on what size you are. There’s a lot of online retailers here that will have it posted to a collection point for you.
Most ISPs will offer something everywhere, but what speeds you can get will depend where you are. Some lSPs are fibre only, which will need them to already have lines in the area (Virgin Media is one of these) or for special equipment to be installed at the house (which most if not all housing stock built in the last few years should have unless the area doesn’t permit).
Strictly speaking if you’re watching anything live (I.e. if it’s being broadcast as you’re watching it) then the BBC would like you to have one - a lot of people don’t though and will ignore the letters that come through the door. If you get easily stressed at official looking letters then probably best to pay for it, but I’m not going to tell you one way or the other here.
Not as big a thing over here, though I’m sure there’s places that do it.
Taco Bell is starting to make inroads here but is only really in the big cities at the moment - otherwise it’s very much down to if anyone has opened up a place that does Mexican food near to you. Chiqitos is another brand to look for, at least near me.
Someone else may have to link this.
Business casual is always a good shout - nice dress or trousers/blouse for women, trousers and polo shirt or just a shirt and jumper/sweater for men, no need for a tie and such nor a full suit. Best to play it by ear and see what your work colleagues dress like.
This will happen, but by experience it isn’t really a bother if your daughter doesn’t pick it up well. Almost everyone in Wales speaks English and with you having an accent they’ll be more considerate of you.
Once you have an account open you can just carry a card or use Apple Pay/Android’s equivalent. We’re very much moving towards a cashless society here, although having some on you can be handy for situations or places where they are unable to accept cards.
I doubt it, you will be a blank slate here I’d imagine, but you should be able to get a basic credit card if you wish to have one. We’re a lot more debit card based over here though, most banks current accounts will provide a debit card.
Personally I’m not a fan of it so no problems here! You may get some light ribbing though, all in jest.
Wonderful! Thank you so much for answering all of my questions!