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People that grew up in poor neighborhoods (e.g. in the ghetto/barrio/~~sticks~~backwoods), what behaviors, customs, and beliefs did you change when you moved on up? (lemmy.autism.place)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Things in poor neighborhoods are done differently than in middle- and upper- class neighborhoods. People that grow up in poor neighborhoods develop behaviors, customs, and beliefs that are different from other neighborhoods because they are part of surviving in the struggle. When they move on up, some of those behaviors, customs, and beliefs are no longer necessary and can even be harmful (e.g. strong reactions to perceived attacks). Others may actually provide an advantage (e.g. living through power outages). Regardless, these changes can cause a sense of estrangement from their childhood and original culture, leading to some resistance. Given all that:

What did you change and what did you keep?

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (27 children)

"the sticks" doesn't mean poor, it just means in the countryside (at least in the UK). On the estate(s) would be correct for us.

I didn't grow up particularly poor, but became poor upon moving out of the family home. This led to making do with very limited ingredients, finding bargains, and that has stuck with me ever since. I've saved a lot of money down the years, can live very frugally for a period of time when I really need to, and as such became a homeowner because I knew how to knuckle down and avoid unnecessary expenditure, perhaps to the detriment of my health at times.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (12 children)

“the sticks” doesn’t mean poor

Is there an informal term that would describe poor rural neighborhoods similar to ghetto/barrio?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (10 children)

My friend grew up in the type of neighborhood you're describing and he calls them "backwoods communities"