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Men were just as depressed before, the only difference is now we admit to it.
And there's this whole thing with correlation and causation.
In the midst of a million different other potential causes, they are identifying "masculine fragility" as the big contributor to depression? Not missing data points, not social media, not the momentum of societal change in the last 30y, not socioeconomic factors, potential comorbidities as contributors, increasingly inflammatory politics, globalization as a whole, ...
It's so dumb to single this out. Sure some people need more confidence, but being "more masculine" sounds like the worst plan ever to gain healthy confidence. If you have problems with your confidence there's usually other factors at play and the most efficient way to improve is to seek a therapist and sort your life or your brain out.
Same goes for dating by the way. A million factors that are potentially contributing to that one, and that's a two player game, so even more factors to consider.
This comment, hell this whole thread, is enormously insightful and productive. It feels like a genuine discussion of men's issues that isn't on the offensive as it often feels when masculinity is the topic. Thank you and all commenters like you who took the time to make a good point.