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I've heard of people who have complained about trans people showing up in their dating feed, mixed in with the cis population, being labelled as "transphobes" and harassed, but good to know that we've overcome that.
Isn't the idea of the dating feed that you can choose whom to date and whom to ignore?
Partly. A feed is typically a set of rules showing you only your interests and filtering out everything else, and within this subset you then go about choosing.
Ideally we would not only have "women\men\bi" categories, but also "orthodox (cis only)\regular(mixed)\frisky(trans only)" categories. Otherwise, we might run into the problems which Saltesc describes, now that being trans is becoming more commonplace.
There needs to be space for everybody (or "everybody whom I don't mind" depending on who you ask, sad lol), but while choices always have some consequences, we need to be careful that our freedom of choice doesn't become another's choice of freedom. I think trans people are (sadly) very well acquainted with this.
Calling the trans-only category "frisky" is certainly a choice. Let's keep it to "all/non-cis/non-trans" and we can avoid cisnormative language altogether.