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How's that a me issue? I'm not the one complimenting guys. The only right compliment from a man that feels right is from your father.
I think it's a you issue because you think giving compliments from man to man is weird. What exactly is your issue with it? Are you afraid it makes you look gay or something? For example, if I'm wearing a shirt of a band I like, and another dude compliments it, why would that not make me feel good? Feeling seen is a human need I think, it gives a sense of belonging.
I'd say it depends on how you compliment it exactly. If you say "That's a nice shirt", that's basically saying you have good taste. I see no issue with that.
But if you'd say "You look nice in that shirt", that would be weird and I'd assume you're coming on to me.
What you say is also a key point to understanding where the borderline is for sexual harassment or other types of unwanted behaviours in the workplace.
This is often confusing for some people who often ask: "Why can't I say this and what's up with everyone being offended over compliments?", etc.
Simply put: It's perfectly fine to say "nice jeans", but it is not okay to say "your butt looks great in those jeans".
It might be fine for other private occasions, but in a professional working environment we shouldn't judge each other by personal appearance or sexuality.