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Finally found the man I thought I would marry, but the breakup came out of nowhere and I'm struggling to cope. What are the ways you've dealt with heartbreak in the past?

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Not gonna sugarcoat it – this will suck for a long time. For me it was friends, hookups and time that helped.

Friends let me forget for the time we hung out but also listened and just hugged me when I cried.

Hookups (and I realise this sounds vapid as shit) made me feel like I am still wanted and attractive.

Time made the thought of them sting less.

This will smost likely stick with you, but it's going to be okay. It's not going to hurt this badly forever. You will think of it less and less frequently. But you will have that scar. And that's okay, I think.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Having sex with a new partner allows your brain to decouple from someone else. The new neural connections you form with the new partner are literally therapeutic.

I have found it to be the single best way to start moving on from an ended relationship.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

How does this work for poly people? Just a shower throught.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

That's a good question. I have no idea.