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[–] [email protected] 98 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (12 children)

These apps seem to encourage ‘transactional’ behaviour. Less so in my experience irl. Best formula someone gave me was: get involved with something you enjoy, a club or activity. Meet people through this. Get to know them with the pressure off (as you’re enjoying whatever the activity is). Meet people through activities to form proper relationships, was his take.

I’d love to know if this has actually worked for someone.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

It worked for me. My wife and I met in a student group in college. Although, that wasn't my motivation for joining the group.

I could definitely see this strategy being more viable in a college setting where everyone is meeting new people and forming new friendships than in general sports clubs etc.

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