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[–] [email protected] 293 points 6 months ago (38 children)

“We’re seeing a greater need for authentic human connections”

I’m going to take a wild guess and wager that this is about increasing engagement by increasing the amount of opening moves that are created on the platform.

Dating sites profit by increasing engagement with the platform, not by getting you an “authentic connection” that gets you off the platform and into a healthy relationship.

There’s a reason people are going analog again. They know these sites are just a thirst trap.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 6 months ago (8 children)

I feel like I saw somewhere that men message dozens of times more women than vice versa. I get their non-nuanced temptation but you can hardly call a system that encourages one gender to incessantly spam the other 'engagement'.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I read that men have to send over 110 likes before they get a single response whereas women get 50-60 guys a day messaging them and they act really creepy like sending dick pics.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

It's absolutely true. I'm polyamorous, and various women I've dated over the years have shared their dating app situations with me. Not one of them didn't have 999+ likes and/or a dozen messages from new men on that day alone (depending upon the app).

I prefer apps like Hinge and OKCupid. They allow me to tell more about what I'm about, and I get to learn more about them as well before I attempt to reach out. I've had fairly good success with both.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Hinge is the only one I use anymore. Honestly, you need to be able to say something. Just swiping doesn’t do shit. If they paywall that feature they’ll be sunk in no time. I’ll be the first to leave. But I’ve been dating someone for a little and it might turn monogamous soon. So, guess we’ll see.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

If I may, out of curiosity, you say it "might turn monogamous soon"; when you first started dating, what were each of your dating styles? Has one of you been more monogamously-minded than the other? Is one person more interested in monogamy than the other?

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